Getting bullied feels horrible. Many victims of bullying have trouble sleeping or focusing on school work. Bullying can even cause physical problems like headaches, or anxiety issues as the stress builds.
Some victims also get depressed or have suicidal thoughts because the situation feels so hopeless. It seems hard to believe, but bullies are usually insecure. If someone is bothering you, stay as calm as you can. Tell them to stop, or else just ignore them. If you can, walk away. You can try talking to a teacher, a parent, the principal of your school, the guidance counsellor, or another adult you trust.
It takes empathy to realize everyone's lives are different from your own. That's not the point, you can't show your kids that revenge is the way to go. The one thing you didn't mention was what happens when a girl starts to bully a boy because she knows she can and won't face the same response as what "Could" happen if it were a boy to boy confrontation?
Multiple issues are a factor when this happens, the boy doesn't know how to react. With a boy to boy intimidation could work, telling on his could work, just about everything you stated above could work, but do you think that boy will tell ANYONE if he is being bullied by a girl? Probably not. If that boy is teased enough when she knows she can keep doing it and he flips out and does something violent, guess who gets into all the trouble?
The boy. I've seen this time, and time again over the last 30 years. Perhaps people should start having this conversation in a world struggling for equal rights among the sexes. This is completely ridiculous! How about putting all the bullies in one room by themeselves instead of keeping them with the other kids? There should be a mandetory class for all kids on anti-bullying and how to treat people. Too many teachers, parents, and educators turn a blind eye to the reality and gravity of what bullying can do even when you see all of the tragic cases out there.
The problem in this society that has been a problem for more than 60 years and it just keeps getting worse by the minute. Save Pin FB More. Credit: Illustration by Emma Darvick. The first step to dealing with bullies is knowing when your child is a victim.
Don't let a bully make you feel bad. When someone says something bad about you, say something positive to yourself. Remind yourself of your positive attributes.
Tell the bully how you feel , why you feel the way you do, and what you want the bully to do. Learn to do this with a calm and determined voice. Say, for example, "I feel angry when you call me names because I have a real name. I want you to start calling me by my real name.
The bully wants to hurt your feelings, so act like his name-calling and taunts don't hurt. You can do this by admitting the bully is right. For example, when the bully calls you "fatty," look him in the eye and say calmly, "You know, I do need to start getting more exercise.
Disarm the bully with humor. Laugh at his threats and walk away from him. Use your best judgment, and follow your instincts. If the bully wants your homework , and you think he is about to hurt you, give him your work and walk off with confidence.
Then tell an adult what happened. Don't expect to be mistreated. When walking toward a group of children, think of them as being nice to you, and do your best to be friendly.
Most important, treat others the way you want to be treated. Stand up for other students who are bullied, and ask them to stand up for you. Parents Magazine. Comments 8. Sort by: Newest. Newest Oldest. Priscilla Wilson. If you feel that you would like some moral support, ask your friend to accompany you to see the teacher.
Tell a parent or guardian. It will not stop unless you speak out. Keep a record of the dates, times and instances when the bullying occurs. If your health is being affected in any way, speak to your family doctor. It is always a good idea to speak to a counsellor. Many schools today have a school counsellor; if not, they can arrange for you to have access to a counsellor who is specially trained to help support you during this unpleasant period.
Remember: No one has the right to bully you. How we can help Lots of young people come to Relate every year for help with problems like this. Find out more about Children and Young People's Counselling.
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